When a man senses a primary God-given responsibility for…
the spiritual life of the family
gathering the family for devotions,
taking them to church,
calling for prayer at meals,
for the discipline and education of the children,
the stewardship of money,
the provision of food,
the safety of the home,
the healing of discord,

he is not being authoritarian or autocratic
or domineering or bossy
or oppressive or abusive. 
It is simply servant leadership. 
And I have never met a wife
who is sorry she is married to a man like that. 
Because when God designs a thing,
he designs it for His glory and our good.  
– John Piper