A Challenge to All Married Men or Those Soon to be Married

How do you deal with disappointment and difficulty in marriage? If you have been married for any length of time, you have had to learn how to deal with disappointment and difficulty in living together as a married couple working hard to keep your vows. This morning I am in the midst of finalizing a … Continue reading A Challenge to All Married Men or Those Soon to be Married

What particular characteristic of Jesus is most absent from the marriages of your friends?

This past week while leading a  bible study I asked a group of young couples' the question: What particular characteristic of Jesus Christ is most absent from the marriages of your friends? Lots of ideas were suggested. Right out of the gate one person mentioned humility. Pride truly is spiritual cancer that eats up the … Continue reading What particular characteristic of Jesus is most absent from the marriages of your friends?

Accountability in Marriage

If a man has no accountability, should his wife hold him accountable? In my opinion, it depends on what area he needs the accountability. My general counsel is that a wife should NOT serve as her husband's accountability partner to monitor internet usage. I would encourage the husband to have a couple of other men … Continue reading Accountability in Marriage

Loving the Right Woman Well

There are three important questions that the book of Proverbs addresses on our theme: Whom are you to love? How are you to love her? Why are you to love her? I.       Whom are you to love? The Temptation of Loving Strange Women. The writer of the Proverbs emphatically call for  men to avoid promiscuity. … Continue reading Loving the Right Woman Well

God’s Gift of Physical Intimacy in Marriage – Proverbs 5:15-21

Desire after forbidden enjoyments naturally springs from dissatisfaction with the blessings in possession. Where contentment is not found at home — drinking out of our own cistern — it will be sought for, however vainly, abroad. Marital love is chief among the earthly goods in mercy granted by God to his fallen and rebellious creatures. … Continue reading God’s Gift of Physical Intimacy in Marriage – Proverbs 5:15-21

Putting on the Kindness of Christ in Marriage

I think the ultimate act of kindness from Christ in the gospel narrative is when he prays for those who are his executioners. "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." In marriage, kindness not only involves a willingness to forgive but also an overall readiness to enhance the life of your spouse because … Continue reading Putting on the Kindness of Christ in Marriage

Spiritual Friendship and Spiritual Direction

I led a group of men in our church through a study on Spiritual Friendship this summer. We used as a companion guide to the Scriptures David Benner's book entitled Sacred Companions. He basically contends that every follower of Jesus needs two types of companions in their spiritual journey: Spiritual friends and a spiritual director. … Continue reading Spiritual Friendship and Spiritual Direction

A Wise Woman: A rare find, the fixed center, and focused commitments,

Most ancient and modern cultures demean and treat women as inferior to men…objects to be used, not people to genuinely love and cherish. Not so with Jesus and not so with the wisdom writer of Proverbs. Jesus treated women with courtesy and honor and allowed women into his most intimate group of followers. In fact, … Continue reading A Wise Woman: A rare find, the fixed center, and focused commitments,

Living Wisely by Loving the Right Woman Well

The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about “Loving the Right Woman Well.” Honestly, why should we listen to a man like Solomon who, in spite of his incredible wisdom, couldn’t seem to bring order to his own love life? Here's the best answer I can offer: All truth is God’s truth and … Continue reading Living Wisely by Loving the Right Woman Well